(photo taken during Eisley’s service)
Accept: to accommodate or reconcile oneself to: to accept the situation. (source)
Acceptance has been the hardest part. I think it’s what has caused this last month to be the hardest to walk through yet. I know we really have to face our reality in order to really begin moving forward, but to accept this… whew.
I feel like I go through the “grief cycle” many times throughout a day but the acceptance is the part that I still get caught up on. I could try to accept this, I don’t want to accept this.
It’s hard to accept or come to terms with what happened, with the bed rest, the hospital, the waiting, the hoping, the trauma, the birth…
I don’t want to accept that this was the first and last time we got to hold her in our arms.
I don’t want to accept the fact that I will never kiss her nose on a daily basis, or that Chase will never get to play with his baby sister, or that I will never get to see Eisley adore her daddy, or that I can’t dress her like me or watch her creativity blossom (I really felt she was a lot like me, I know it sounds odd, but I do). I don’t want to accept that our dreams with her are gone, or that we will never watch her grow to be a beautiful lady. I don’t want to accept that I won’t someday watch her walk down the aisle… etc, etc, etc, ETC. There is so much that I don’t want to accept. It’s seriously infinite.
I like the above quote, but suddenly realized it is more like INfinite disappointment then finite disappointment. Infinite is immeasurable. There is immeasurable disappointments and aches and there is also infinite hope. A hope that says no matter what we face, we can make it through the hardest, darkest day. Hope helps us breathe deeply, take that first step out of bed each morning, face the day, live… hope will help us to dream again eventually. We are clinging to hope, to Him. We must not lose infinite hope and we aren’t. We’re struggling and aching still, everyday and often.
Four and a half months too many.
We miss you baby girl.
Whew, I know this is really a downer of a post, but I want to stay true to where I’m at and honestly, to ask for your prayers.
I will share a not-so-down post next, with some fabulous finds to lift the mood.
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I’m praying for you. This post has me bawling. God bless you,
Mary
you are in my prayers.
-karey
bless you guys. praying for you and Ted. I really love you. I know God loves you guys so much, and that he weeps with you. his hope is ever present, everlasting. peace to your hearts, to your minds, and in your home. thank your for sharing these amazing and intimate photos. they both brought tears to my eyes. you are standing in His strength, and he holds you in His arms.
i love you so much friend….
and am praying for you guys
Jami – praying for you and your family.
I know it’s hard to hear, but God really does know best. He really does. His love is so much more than we can comprehend.
love love love you.
I thought that you might be interested in this website. It belongs to the SIL of one of my dearest friends. A few years ago, she lost her little girl.
http://www.agoodgrief.com/blog.php